Healing Session: What's My Purpose?

The questions we all ask ourselves at one point; Why am I here?  What's my purpose?  And we ponder and search and some of us can't seem to find a purpose big enough, because it is believed that it has to be something heroic, ambitious and accomplishing.  But, what does that really mean, and more specifically, what does that mean to you?  Your sense of accomplishment and mine may not be the same, and we each can feel accomplished doing the total opposite things.

At one point, I stressed about finding my purpose, after all I have so much more to give and experience.  We are told to do what we love and we'll find our purpose, the "do what makes you happy" bit.  Well, I like to do a lot of things, the creative field makes me happy, but so does teaching others and caring for people.  Like I said, there is much I like to do.

It is at a time of not searching for anything that it dawned on me, my main purpose on this planet at this time is to be mySelf, the authentic Self without some grand outcome that we tend to want to present and attach ourselves to.  My purpose is to be the loving Self every moment in time, extend compassion, wisdom, balance and contribute all that's necessary to create a better place around me.  Does that mean I will never fail? No. But, the point is to strive to do your best, learn and move on.

You don't have to have a fancy work title, as a title doesn't have to define your purpose, your actions do, with or without the title.  When we leave this planet, people remember how we treated others and how much of their lives we touched.  Everything we do is a teaching AND learning moment for us and others, that includes the good and bad, so for me it's important to try to lead by example as much as I can.  Lead in such a way that I will leave this place better than I found it.  No one says it will be easy, and where's the fun in that anyway?

The trick is to live in the moment and to not seek outside yourself, to not pass judgment, to stop thinking so much. I'm not saying I have it all figured out, but I have experienced that once you make that decision to do differently, things around you start to align to support you and it gets easier, life gets easier.  We are just here to play a role, it's up to you how to perform yours.  Will life lead me to a more specific purpose later on?  I don't know and I don't concern myself with that right now, everything happens in due time and what we do now prepares us for it.

All my love,

Healing Session: Forgiveness

Hello dear ones!

As most of you, I too have been on a journey of self rediscovery and healing.  And today I would like to touch on the topic of forgiveness, an important part of healing that holds us back.

When we think of forgiveness, we tend to think that forgiving is condoning the hurt, pain and hardship done unto us, and we fail to realize that forgiveness is nothing like that.  This holds us back from healing our emotions, our mind and soul, and ultimately our physical body.  Remember, that negative thoughts and actions will eventually affect the physical body, you can feel an acute episode of that when you get stressed out for the day, it literally gets your body out of rhythm.  In my experience not forgiving is thinking you are punishing the other person, but really you are punishing yourself, and it took me years to come to that realization.

Forgiveness is not for the forgiven, it is for you.  

Forgiveness does not mean you approve of the behavior, it does not mean you allow it to continue and it does not mean you are taking the blame.  What it means is that you are releasing the negative string that tied you to that person and you are releasing the negative energy that was no doubt holding you back.  Remember, while you are hurt and upset at the person day in and day out, they most likely aren't even thinking about you, but you give them such power over you.  So forgiveness is taking your power back and keeping yourself whole.  Why allow negativity to fill your heart when all it does is steal your joy and peace?  Not forgiving is holding on to the toxic energy that doesn't affect the other person, but it affects you.

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Forgiveness does not mean we have to hang out right after.  Forgiveness is a process, and I am not saying it's easy, but if you want yourself back you will have to lift off the burden that is weighing you down.  Depending on the situation, it could take a while to process and forgive, and you want to make sure you have yourself ready for if and when you decide to let the person back into your space.  At times, having that person back in your space too early can bring on your past triggers and stifle your forgiving and healing process, so make sure you are truly ready.  Some situations are just very painful, but without forgiveness real healing, whether physical or emotional, cannot take place.

Forgiving is loving yourself.

Often, the one person we forget to forgive is ourselves.  We are harder on ourselves than others and hold ourselves to an unrealistic standard.  We make mistakes, but who doesn't?  Learn to let go and be willing to see things differently.  Forgive yourself, learn from your mistakes and do better next time.  Don't be so hard on yourself, this is a tough one for me too, but realize it's okay to let things go.  You will be presented with opportunities to do better and be kinder, choose love over self punishment, it will serve you better.

All my love,

A Break from Social Media

Hello my dear ones!

Lately, I have been taking a break from social media and the blog, I find it important to follow your heart and take the breaks it asks for.  Life is much more calm and less mind-cluttered when there is a healthy balance with social media, there is less distraction from the things that matter.  Placing my energy where I need it the most has been the best thing for me (still learning to do this all the time).

The reason I started this blog in the first place was to be able to express my creative side, inspire others to do the same, and make a little difference in this world.  When life is challenging, it gets hard to be in that artistic zone and so it's important to know when to take a break and get back to it later.  It's okay to just stop for a while.  I have been in the process of healing my body and it gets tough some times, but knowing that this too shall pass, I am excited for all the new beginnings and life living events to come.

I like to see life as one big event, the good and bad are indifferent in a sense that they are all important on growing our soul.  We are all right where we need to be this very moment, and living knowing that, everything is much easier to take.  Learning your lessons, graduates you to move on to the next thing, and so this is the way I am learning to see the world.

What have you been working on?  Send me a link or tell me in the comments section, I look forward to knowing you better!

With love,

Life After the 30-Day Purge Challenge

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You have taken the 30-Day Purge Challenge and now what?  (For those of you unfamiliar with the Challenge, see the post here.)  Often people, myself included, get rid of things only to fall back into old habits and buy more stuff to fill up the space.

Here are some tips to get you started on keeping your home lighter and more comfortable.

1. To keep down the volume of your wardrobe, for every purchased item, donate/sell/giveaway an item you already own.

2. Using velvet, space saving hangers will allow you to hang up more items and the velvet will prevent your clothes from slipping off the hangers.

3. Throw away or use as cleaning rags clothes with holes and rips that can't be fixed.  Items with bodily stains or odors that can no longer be washed out should be tossed.

4. Sort your garments by color and by type.  This will allow you to see how many of each item you have in the same color.

5. If you need another round of purging your home, take the 30-Day Purge Challenge again until you reach your desired results.

6. Buy only the items you plan to use and need right away and not some time in the future, because let's face it, chances are they will only collect dust!

7. Invest in quality not quantity.  Quality items will last a long time, yes they cost a bit more, but imagine having to buy the same item over and over because it keeps breaking or gets damaged easily.  This also means less items going to the landfill.

8. Realize that things of this world, in this case material things, only bring temporary happiness.  Do you notice the constant need for more stuff, the latest gadgets?  It just never stops, and the commercials are everywhere, including on billboards, television, websites, apps and magazines.  It's time to focus on memories, turning off the TV and spending time with loved ones, and also to be more of service to others as it's much more fulfilling.


With love,

Sunset Watching at St. Pete Beach Florida

Taking time out to see the sunset and breathe in the salty sea breeze is one of my favorite ways to end a day.

Every time we do go watching the sunset on the beach, we witness not just the spectacular show in this little part of the universe, but what it evokes in people.  Most sunsets we see, people that have gathered to witness it, applaud as the tip of the sun sinks below the Gulf's horizon.  It triggers a feeling of wonder and fascination.

Time spent in nature is never a waste of time.  Whether it is a beach, forest, a lonely tree in your back yard or a flowering meadow, take the time to connect with nature and experience your true soul waking up.  It makes everything else less relative; the material things, the gossip, hurt, blame and all these things you are not meant to be feeling nor doing.

For this beach trip, I didn't bother dragging my camera with me and used the phone to capture a few beautiful moments in hopes to inspire you to connect to your surroundings.

Sunset at St. Petersburg Beach

With love,

Get Your Health Back - Detoxification Simplified

First, let's get the legality out of the way: I am not a doctor and this is not medical advice.  This is for information purposes only.  If you choose to use this information, I take no responsibility.  Consult your doctor before any diet or activity changes.

These videos simplify why and how to detox your body.  It is something I have started to do and within 5 days experienced super soft skin & hair and little to no fluid retention in the body.  The videos below cover the importance of detoxing your body, how to get your kidneys to filter out the lymph waste, and cleaning out and healing your bowls so that you can absorb all the nutrients your body needs to maintain great health.

The way to health is alkalizing your body through raw, plant based foods and adding healing herbs which make the journey a lot easier.  I urge you to watch each video below and visit Dr. Morse's Herbal Health Club for more free info and resources! 

With love,

Stop for Music

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How often do you take time-out for yourself or even to listen to your favorite music?  I know I don't do it as often as I should.  The type of music I am talking about is music that is light and easy to listen to.  I usually pick instrumental only songs, this way I avoid overbearing emotions and the need to sing along that lyrics can produce.  Light classical music works great for this, however, you know what best works for you.

Turn off the TV and do not multitask, just sit with your thoughts (or the lack of them) for a little while. Doing this even if it's for five minutes, will make a huge impact on your decision making and well being.  Don't have time to dedicate a few minutes?  Well, you'll be surprised to find out that the Earth will keep spinning and life will go on whether you finished all of your work or not.  Taking this break forces you to stop and be present, and what a wonderful and calming feeling that is. For more detailed information on how music affects us and promotes health, read this article.

Below are some of my favorite music picks, give them a try, you might just like them!

With love,

30-Day Purge Challenge

Normally I don't follow trends, but with the recent downsizing trend, I am totally on board!  Suddenly instead of getting a bigger place and keeping all the accumulated stuff or buying more to fill the space, it made more sense to get rid of things that no longer serve any purpose.

So I have decided to adopt the minimalist approach and what I like to call being "move ready", having just the items you actually use and/or need.  Wouldn't it be easier to pack up and move?  Of course it would!

I am sure many of you have done this, I tried getting rid of things more times than I can remember and ended up feeling so overwhelmed that I put back most of them!  To deal with this I decided to do the 30-Day Purge Challenge.

How the 30-Day Purge Challenge works: 

Throw out/sell/donate/give away one item on Day 1, two items on Day 2, three items on Day 3 and so on until you reach thirty items on Day 30.

Some ideas of things to get rid of:

Extra/mismatched cups and mugs, old Tupperware, long expired vitamins, stained clothing, clothing that's too small/large, vases (How many do we really need?), old spices that have lost their aroma, check back of cabinets and drawers, magazines, newspapers, knickknacks, extra furniture, toys, books itd.

As I write this blog post, I am on Day 4 of my Purge Challenge and so far it has been easy.  Looking forward to Day 10 and up, I can see this becoming a big challenge.  To keep track of Days, I started a simple log with the Days and number of items eliminated.  A couple of months ago, I went on a random house purge and managed to get rid of a solid number of things, and I am thinking that this will make the Challenge harder.  However the bag I filled with clothes to donate, I still have in the house!  Doesn't that happen to you?  You decide to get rid of things, but you don't actually take it out of the house?

So come on and take the Challenge with me!  Share your experience, was it hard or easy for you?  Have you done this Challenge before?  Can't wait to hear from you!

With love,

Start Your Regret Free Life

Are you living your life now or waiting for the "right" time?    

Chances are you are waiting until ___.  Until what?  Until you take care of everything on that never ending list, (and if you are not, good for you, the rest of us need to get to where you are!).  As you keep going, years will pass, more will be added to the list and then you will say "Where has the time gone?".  Well, it went with all the things you mapped out to do, except those that you actually wanted and should have done.  It's simply naive to postpone until a better time, because there will never be the right time, you just have to create it!

Wake up every day with a choice to live your fullest life.  Yes, every day, because that's what it takes and eventually it will become a habit.  Make the I want and I should into I will!  

The number one regret of the dying is "I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.".  Below you can watch a great interview from Marie Forleo and Bronnie Ware that sparked some great ah-ha moments for me yet again.  For most of us it isn't anything we haven't heard before, but why is it that we just don't do it?

Related: Get Your Health Back

Marie Forleo TV

Part of starting this blog is accountability.  Everything is easier said than done, so putting my intentions out there will hold me accountable to actually do them!  Join me and make yourself accountable by leaving a comment below of how you plan to start living.  It can be the simplest thing that you have been putting off.  For me, it's exploring new places and traveling more.

With love,